With Spring finally here, I have been thinking a great deal
about change and growth. These two
factors are part of my life and they’re part of yours too, whether you realize
it or not! I believe that without change and growth we are dead, in one form
This might sound a bit dramatic, but realistically speaking, it can
mean that our physical body is dead, or it can mean that our soul and spirituality
feels dead. We know it’s never actually dead, but there are times
in our lives where we feel that way: flat, empty, nothing, missing or lacking
For some of us, this may be
a permanent or frequent state, while others may have recently started feeling
this way. Maybe it has been gradually happening over time, without us even
noticing or realizing it along the way.
You may wonder: “What? What’s she
talking about? I don’t feel like that or surely I’d notice, right?”
Believe it or not, this happens far more often than you would ever imagine.
In fact, it has happened
to me, and, if I were to be honest, it’s happened a few times over the
I have been into reading
positive mental attitude (PMA) and self-improvement books since I was a
teenager (it’s scary to think how many years ago that was). I used
many of the tools and followed a great deal of the advice, but I was still
oblivious to a lot around me in my 20s and 30s, and I was not consistent
with my practices. I didn’t meditate, eat healthy, write in my grateful journal, exercise or daydream on a daily basis.
When I hit my 40s, it was
as if a lightbulb went off and things started to change in many areas of my
life. I realized that I had all but given up on my dreams, and I wasn’t in
the place I thought I would be. I was working in toxic environments that
sucked the life out of me before I even knew what was happening.
Even more difficult for me
to believe and accept, is that I could fall into this trap (again), especially
knowing what I know. I’m relatively intelligent and am great at helping,
motivating, encouraging and supporting my clients and keeping them on
track. They often get derailed or side-tracked once our sessions have
completed, which is the primary reason I encourage them to stay in touch and
book a check-in session every six weeks or so: it helps them remain
accountable, not just to me, but to themselves.
I believe I have figured out
how and why this happened. Truthfully, if I had been committed to all my
practices and routines every single day, I know I would be in an entirely
different place. However, I also believe that everything happens for a
reason and, in this case, the reason was for me to figure out that I ended up
where I was because I got slack and lazy, and I didn’t dedicate time and energy
to doing all the positive, impactful and life changing habits that I should
Big lesson learned. It’s onward and upward now.
My experience and my calling have finally lead me to the birth
of my new program, Find Your Sparkle. This program
is what makes me sparkle, and it has elevated me in every sense imaginable. This
program can help others improve their lives by taking a personal journey of
discovery to find their sparkle – just thinking about it gets me excited
Where do you start to find
your sparkle? Here are five simple tools that can help jump start your journey:
back in time. One of the easiest ways to get a glimpse of what makes you
sparkle is to think back to your early childhood. Think about all of the
things you loved to do: what captivated your attention? What were you doing
when hours passed like mere
minutes? Who were you with? Do you want to smile and do you feel lighter
and more energized by merely reminiscing? When did they stop
happening, and why? Remember and embrace all the positive sensations
and emotions you had back then – that’s what we’re striving for.
your strengths. Think about what your
friends, family and colleagues come to you for when seeking expertise,
opinion or advice. Chances are, you are the “GO TO” person for
something. It could be to help organize an event, decorate a room, pick
out paint colours, or a building design. Maybe you’re an expert when it
comes to computers, health, wellness, carpentry, writing, art, fixing things,
algorithms, personal or personnel issues – the list is endless.
What is it that brings
your name to the top of a list when someone is looking for help in that area?
Ponder this for a moment – could this be your purpose? Could this be what
makes you sparkle? Only you can answer. You may not have realized
it, but this is definitely a good indicator of what does makes you
sparkle. It’s the stuff you do (regularly) for free because you love it,
and it makes you feel good and usually gives you extra energy.
a path without obstacles. Another way to get closer
to finding your sparkle is to imagine that there are no obstacles holding you back –
time, money, knowledge, place, resources and so forth: none of these are a
concern. This can be challenging, however, it is a truly valuable
exercise. What would you be doing? What would make you sparkle? Are
you smiling just thinking about it? Can you imagine investing in yourself
to do what you are meant to do?
4. Meditate. This is great for everyone, and is a fantastic way to start and
end your day on a positive note. However, meditation can also serve as a
direct line to your spirit or your inner self – your authentic self. For
some of you, this may seem “out there” or “new age” while others will know
exactly what I am referring to. Through meditation, you can ask questions
to your inner self (soul, spirit, gut, intuition, sixth sense, authentic self, etc.).
I suggest writing your
question down on a piece of loose paper and holding it in your hands, repeating
the question several times and asking your soul for guidance. Stay quiet
and listen to what message you “hear” from your inner self. This may make
you uncomfortable at first; however, I promise that if you continue to practice
this form of meditation, you will start “hearing” and recognizing what your
inner self is trying to tell you.
5. Brainstorm. Finally, take some time to brainstorm all of the things you love
to do; those things that bring you joy, fulfillment, contentment and really
make you feel like the “true” YOU! Next, I want you to think about your
current situation at home, work and social life and what consumes your
day. Make a list of those things you do and cross reference it with the
list of things you LOVE to do. How much overlay is there? Are there
opportunities to do more of what you like and less of what you don’t
I’m not suggesting that
you quit your job (although sometimes that may be the best option – it was for
me). I am asking that you really contemplate and brainstorm how to bring more
of what you love into your life. Remember, we change: our lives change,
our tastes change, our thoughts change and change is good. Sometimes, we
need to take a look at where we are spending our time and determine whether it
is feeding our soul or adding unnecessary stress.
As an example, it’s okay
if you no longer love that volunteer position you’ve held for the past 10
years. Maybe now is the time to pass the torch and find a volunteer role that
is meaningful to you now.
I’ve been on a mission of
truth these past several months and I have come to terms with the fact that I
am human and I am going to make mistakes. However, I always look for the
lesson learned, and how I can ensure that it doesn’t happen again, or I devise a
plan to ensure it doesn’t. This post started with the goal of sharing
five ways to find your sparkle, but has morphed into a personal disclosure that
I hope resonates with you in some way, and inspires you to take your own
self-discovery journey to find your sparkle.
My goal is to reach as many people with the Find Your Sparkle program as possible. If you,
someone you know, or an organization or company would benefit from my Find Your Sparkle presentations,
workshops and/or discovery sessions, please connect for a complimentary
I’d love to share this program with you and others.